Category Archives: Difficulty & Challenges

How To Respond to a Friend in Crisis

Posted on April 12, 2013 by ShastaGFC

I read a lot of articles and books every week (I prefer the term “learner” to “self-help junkie” but the latter is just as true!) so when one still sticks with me a few days later, I figure I may … Continue reading →

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Today is National Reconciliation Day!

Posted on April 2, 2013 by ShastaGFC

Oh I wish this holiday had been on my radar last week so I could have given you plenty of notice to start thinking about what action you wanted to take today toward reconciliation! But, alas, it was only when … Continue reading →

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What Do I Do With My Toxic Friend?

Posted on March 4, 2013 by ShastaGFC

I’ve so loved doing the book tour as it’s given me such a fabulous opportunity to meet so many of you in person.  Love it!  (A few more are scheduled in SF, Southern Cal, and Seattle.)  At every signing I’ve … Continue reading →

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The 3 Challenges that Moms Face with Friendship

Posted on January 14, 2013 by ShastaGFC

When I speak on female friendship there are always mothers in the audience who raise their hands to ask questions about some of the unique challenges that moms face in that friend-making process.  It’s not that they don’t have the … Continue reading →

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The Impact of Self-Esteem on Friendship

Posted on November 29, 2012 by ShastaGFC

When it comes to self-esteem and friendship, there is no end to the correlations that are so frequently made.  People with more friends have higher self-esteem, and people with high self-esteem seem to have an easier time making friends– the … Continue reading →

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I Feel Insecure and It Shows

Posted on November 9, 2012 by ShastaGFC

While describing my life to one of my closest girlfriends yesterday, the metaphor of a crab came to mind. That’s a first. Feeling like a crab… But it captured my feelings, “I feel like a crab who has outgrown her … Continue reading →

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Vagina Monologues, Violence & Friendship

Posted on October 1, 2012 by ShastaGFC

I just returned from participating in a One Billion Rising Pop-Up Video Shoot sharing why I rise against violence for women. You watch this 3-minute video and tell me how we could do anything but choose to rise. Let’s rise … Continue reading →

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A Moment of Honesty about Forgiveness

Posted on September 17, 2012 by ShastaGFC

As anyone in the spiritual work field will tell you– whatever sermon we’re about to preach will show up in our own personal battles.  Whatever lessons we’re going to be called to teach will have to also continue being learned.  … Continue reading →

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Help! Should I Tell My Friend that Her Husband is Cheating on Her?

Posted on July 12, 2012 by ShastaGFC

I’m adding to my Friendship Break-up Series with a real life example sent to me by a reader of this blog.  I don’t know her or the situation so this is by no means advice to her specifically, as much … Continue reading →

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Friendship Break-Ups 3: “Was She Really a Friend, Anyway?”

Posted on July 5, 2012 by ShastaGFC

The other night I was out with some new friends and, as often happens when someone finds out that my work is all about female friendships, women I barely know start to tell me their friendship woes. One very friendly … Continue reading →

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