Category Archives: Fears

Sister Giant: Three Responses to Feeling Insecure

Posted on November 15, 2012 by ShastaGFC

Last week I was touched by your comments on my blog post about how insecure I was feeling about stepping out into new phases.  First, I always love comments as they remind me that someone out there is reading what … Continue reading →

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I Feel Insecure and It Shows

Posted on November 9, 2012 by ShastaGFC

While describing my life to one of my closest girlfriends yesterday, the metaphor of a crab came to mind. That’s a first. Feeling like a crab… But it captured my feelings, “I feel like a crab who has outgrown her … Continue reading →

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Are We Competitors? Or, Can We Be Friends?

Posted on February 7, 2012 by ShastaGFC

The moments I love the most in life are when a veil is lifted, reminding me that what I thought was true, wasn’t. Just because my feelings told me one thing didn’t make it so. Such was the case with … Continue reading →

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What We Need Are More Women, Fewer Girls.

Posted on January 3, 2012 by ShastaGFC

I begrudgingly watched The Bachelor last night and shuddered at how quickly girls sized each other up and put each other down. Hoping they’d feel more cool, more amazing, and more chosen in the process.  Ignorant still to the truth … Continue reading →

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Defending the Introverts, Defining Mutuality

Posted on October 17, 2011 by ShastaGFC

If I had to put money on the table next to what I thought was a primary barrier to women building new friendships, I’d put it next to a mistaken view of what mutuality means. Sure, lack of time will … Continue reading →

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Let “Best Friend” Refer to Quality, Not Quantity.

Posted on October 11, 2011 by ShastaGFC

One of my neighbor friends from childhood saw my post on Facebook about my recent TV interview on women’s friendship. Watching it reminded her of a time when we were kids where she had been in tears as a result … Continue reading →

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Healthy Friendship: How to Be the Best Friend Possible

Posted on September 22, 2011 by ShastaGFC

Note from Shasta: For Friendship Month this September I’ve invited some women to guest blog for me, adding their voices and experiences to our journey.  Today I’m hosting two posts: one from a therapist highlighting four qualities of emotionally safe … Continue reading →

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My Name is Shasta. I’m a Recovering People-Pleaser.

Posted on August 11, 2011 by ShastaGFC

I am a recovering people-pleaser. I Am a People-Pleaser. My mom was visiting last week and told a story about me from junior high.  One of those random snapshot memories that revealed just how strong my people-pleaser tendency was at … Continue reading →

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Nothing Kills a Potential Relationship Faster

Posted on August 1, 2011 by ShastaGFC

Momentum.  The lack of it can kill a relationship quickly. A romantic relationship would never get off the ground if the two of you went out for a date, then ended the evening saying “That was fun… we should do … Continue reading →

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How Annoying People Can Grow Me

Posted on July 20, 2011 by ShastaGFC

Call the Holy Spirit your still small voice, your intuition, your wisdom, your highest self, your conscience, your place of peace, or whatever it is that guides you, but don’t miss the profundity of this upcoming statement.  Marianne Williamson, in … Continue reading →

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