Category Archives: Jealousy & Competition

Is “Get Rid of Negative People in My Life” Good Advice?

Posted on May 28, 2013 by ShastaGFC

Please note:  This post isn’t intended to speak about the cases that include mental disorders, criminals, drug abusers, or those who are willfully hurting us.  The intention of the post is to speak to the vast majority of relationships we … Continue reading →

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I Feel Insecure and It Shows

Posted on November 9, 2012 by ShastaGFC

While describing my life to one of my closest girlfriends yesterday, the metaphor of a crab came to mind. That’s a first. Feeling like a crab… But it captured my feelings, “I feel like a crab who has outgrown her … Continue reading →

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I Have This Theory that Friendship Can Save the World

Posted on September 11, 2012 by ShastaGFC

This is my manifesto for doing what I do.  I believe that beyond the joy and health that friendships bring us personally, they also give us the place to practice being the people who this world needs. I share this … Continue reading →

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Are We Competitors? Or, Can We Be Friends?

Posted on February 7, 2012 by ShastaGFC

The moments I love the most in life are when a veil is lifted, reminding me that what I thought was true, wasn’t. Just because my feelings told me one thing didn’t make it so. Such was the case with … Continue reading →

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What We Need Are More Women, Fewer Girls.

Posted on January 3, 2012 by ShastaGFC

I begrudgingly watched The Bachelor last night and shuddered at how quickly girls sized each other up and put each other down. Hoping they’d feel more cool, more amazing, and more chosen in the process.  Ignorant still to the truth … Continue reading →

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Frientimacy: The Intimacy of Friends

Posted on November 6, 2011 by ShastaGFC

This is a posting that was originally posted April 26, 2010 on my former blog. Because I’ve been writing more about Frientimacy, I wanted to re-port this illustration of how it’s played out in my life. ________________________ Sitting in that … Continue reading →

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Let “Best Friend” Refer to Quality, Not Quantity.

Posted on October 11, 2011 by ShastaGFC

One of my neighbor friends from childhood saw my post on Facebook about my recent TV interview on women’s friendship. Watching it reminded her of a time when we were kids where she had been in tears as a result … Continue reading →

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We Simply Have to Support Other Women!

Posted on October 7, 2011 by ShastaGFC

While in New York City this week, I emerged from a tour of the United Nations building thinking about the blog I had just written on the 3 Baby-Steps Toward Girl Effect’s Dream of Changing the World. One of the … Continue reading →

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3 Baby-Steps Toward Girl Effect’s Dream of Changing the World

Posted on October 3, 2011 by ShastaGFC

I still remember my jaw dropping open a couple of years ago after hearing the New York Times human rights columnist, Nicholas Kristof make a historical comparison, when he was promoting his book “Half the Sky: Turning Oppression Into Opportunity … Continue reading →

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How Annoying People Can Grow Me

Posted on July 20, 2011 by ShastaGFC

Call the Holy Spirit your still small voice, your intuition, your wisdom, your highest self, your conscience, your place of peace, or whatever it is that guides you, but don’t miss the profundity of this upcoming statement.  Marianne Williamson, in … Continue reading →

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