Category Archives: Judging Others

Is “Get Rid of Negative People in My Life” Good Advice?

Posted on May 28, 2013 by ShastaGFC

Please note:  This post isn’t intended to speak about the cases that include mental disorders, criminals, drug abusers, or those who are willfully hurting us.  The intention of the post is to speak to the vast majority of relationships we … Continue reading →

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Vulnerability, Weight, Nudity, and Judgment

Posted on June 4, 2012 by ShastaGFC

I’ve been thinking about bodies, weight, and insecurities a lot lately. I was somewhat shocked when my last blog post (“The Judgment of Weight”) skyrocketed to first place as the most read blog on this site. In hindsight, I shouldn’t … Continue reading →

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The Judgment of Weight

Posted on May 22, 2012 by ShastaGFC

There are two things I will not board a plane without: a new magazine purchased at the airport and a purse filled with snacks. The snacks are self-explanatory in a day and age where one can get stuck on a … Continue reading →

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Race and Friendship

Posted on April 5, 2012 by ShastaGFC

Anderson Cooper is highlighting results all week on his CNN AC360 show about kids and race in America.  As adults it’s sometimes harder to gauge prejudice and racism since we are trained to be politically correct and don’t want to … Continue reading →

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All Those “Unhealthy People” Drive Me Crazy

Posted on February 29, 2012 by ShastaGFC

It’s all too easy to point fingers and feel frustrated at those people in our lives who don’t live up to our expectations.  After all, they are our friends who are supposed to “do anything for me” and “if I … Continue reading →

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Are We Competitors? Or, Can We Be Friends?

Posted on February 7, 2012 by ShastaGFC

The moments I love the most in life are when a veil is lifted, reminding me that what I thought was true, wasn’t. Just because my feelings told me one thing didn’t make it so. Such was the case with … Continue reading →

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Go Friend-Fishing With a Net, Not a Line!

Posted on January 19, 2012 by ShastaGFC

It’s been over two weeks since I’ve blogged… mostly because I was on a retreat to plug away on my book manuscript all last week and a girl can only produce so many scribbles at a time!   I’m still trying … Continue reading →

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What We Need Are More Women, Fewer Girls.

Posted on January 3, 2012 by ShastaGFC

I begrudgingly watched The Bachelor last night and shuddered at how quickly girls sized each other up and put each other down. Hoping they’d feel more cool, more amazing, and more chosen in the process.  Ignorant still to the truth … Continue reading →

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Defending the Introverts, Defining Mutuality

Posted on October 17, 2011 by ShastaGFC

If I had to put money on the table next to what I thought was a primary barrier to women building new friendships, I’d put it next to a mistaken view of what mutuality means. Sure, lack of time will … Continue reading →

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We Simply Have to Support Other Women!

Posted on October 7, 2011 by ShastaGFC

While in New York City this week, I emerged from a tour of the United Nations building thinking about the blog I had just written on the 3 Baby-Steps Toward Girl Effect’s Dream of Changing the World. One of the … Continue reading →

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