Do you know what it feels like to feel loved? Most of us are familiar with the 5 Love Languages--acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, gift giving, and quality time-- as different methods of communicating love with others; but another one of my favorite ways for identifying what I need from others in order to feel loved is asking myself what I most need to feel in order to feel loved.
In this 3 1/2 minute video I share why it's absolutely necessary to identify what we each most want to feel in our relationships. Every January on the New Years retreat that I facilitate, I guide the participants through a process to hear their intuition peak to them about what they most want to feel in the upcoming year. It's so powerful, life-illuminating, and hopeful to those who come, and while all our words are so different based on our current life experiences, without fail, the desire to feel "loved" is one of the most expressed feeling words.
We all want to feel loved, right?
But what does that really mean? To one of us it might mean feeling heard while to another we need to feel actually feel more expressed? Or are we really saying we want to feel supported? Or believed in? Or encouraged? Or uplifted? Or trusted? Or trusting? Or resonant? Or valuable?
You can hopefully feel the difference in some of those words? The nuance matters. How I go about increasing the chances of me feeling heard will look different, and invite something different out of me, than if I want to feel expressed.
When we know what feeling words lead us to feeling loved-- we then will be more available, aware, and ready to lean toward the people and conversations that will increase our likelihood of feeling what we most want to feel.
What feeling would lead you to feeling loved? Are you willing to share with us? (Note: we're not listing what behaviors others could do for us, but rather, what feeling helps you feel loved?)